Friday, June 15, 2007

Ahmad Harith, Alesya Zara & Athirah Zahraa

"I guess her name reflects her destiny; Alesya which means protected by God. Allah decided to take her back to be with Him.At least I know she need not suffer to fight for her life. She’s daddy’s little girl. She has long limbs, legs and fingers, sharp nose and even the shape of her face. She had my eyes though"


The Few Most Popular Questions:


Q1: You have triplets???
A1: Yes, I was blessed with triplets on the 9th of June; 1 boy and 2 gals: Ahmad Harith, Alesya Zara and Athirah Zahraa.
However on the 11th June Alesya Zara returned to Allah during the call of Zuhur prayer.


Q2: Did you know right from the beginning you are expecting triplets?
A2: Yes I did


Q3: Do you have family history of twins/triplets?
A3: Yes, my mom has twin brother. My grandpa has twin sisters, and few other sets of twin cousins and a set of triplets


Q4: Did you have a C-section?
A4: Nope, I didn’t. I delivered all three the natural way.


Q5: How come you gave birth so early?
A5: Unfortunately I didn’t know what I felt over the night was actually a contraction. I thought it was just one of those aching I usually feel through out my pregnancy. Since it was in the middle of the night, I thought it was unnecessary to rush to the hospital, fearing it was nothing major, the nurse might just laugh it off. Somehow as morning approaches I told my mom (hubby not around) I think I need to see the doctor. Guess what? When I reached there, doctor said, mine was 9cm opened (the maximum is 10cm) and my membrane was bulging. They tried to prevent me from giving birth but the medication and oxygen given to me didn’t help much. At almost 9am, they decided I had to give birth.


My babies are very very small, well that’s something we would expect I guess since they were only 26 weeks. Each of them weigh at 760gm, 564gm and 600gm respectively. And their length are 33cm, 32.5cm and 31.5cm.


Unfortunately, Alesya was too small. Most of her body system has not fully matured yet. Her lung especially and also her blood vessel. She had bleeding in her brain. The day she left us, there were also bleeding in her lung and stomach. Looking at her pale body I was really sad fearing that she was in pain. I knew I had to let her go. I guess her name reflects her destiny; Alesya which means protected by God. Allah decided to take her back to be with Him.At least I know she need not suffer to fight for her life. She’s daddy’s little girl. she has long limbs, legs and fingers, sharp nose and even the shape of her face. She had my eyes though.


Of course I couldn’t stop crying when I knew I’m gonna lost her. I was still at the hospital when they did her funeral. I stayed in the hospital so that I could be with my other 2 angels. That night syauQi and I went to see Harith and Athirah. It was a touching moment. When I touched Harith’s head, there were tears from his eyes. Then syauQi went over to Athirah and touched her head. The minute syauQi touched her, Athirah was also in tears. I guess they could feel the lost of their sister. Because of that, I make a promise to myself to be strong for them, to comfort and ensure them things will be alright, insya-Allah.


I asked my lecturer psychologically, could my children feel the lost of their sister? She replied : Although I can’t quote any academic evidence, I believe that your children have formed a bond while in the womb. Similar thing happened to a boy at Rumah Solehah when his twin brother passed. Your surviving children may not have cognitive recollection of their sister but may have memory of the senses. Wallahu’alam.


I was sad, I didn’t had the chance to be at Alesya’s funeral. But after being told other relatives and frens were there, I felt relief knowing lots of people send off Alesya Zara for me. I would like to thank everyone for their concern, love and support. May Allah bless all of you

Q6: How long did hArith and athirAh spend in the hospital?

hArith were in the hospital for 99 days while athirAh were in the hospital for 124 days. However she had to be readmitted to the hospital after 2 spending 2 nights at home due to hernia which needed operation. Besides that both of them went through eye laser for ROP

2 comments:

mama shmontel said...

A3 - q's answered...tq!
A5 - i'm touched!! semuda itu pun your babies boleh sense their sister is missing ...masyaallah! :')

Gorgeous H said...

Salam..
1st time i singgah blog u.
sedih baca psl kehilangan arwah Alesya..Al Fatihah.
selepas ni i mesti singgah lagi utk tgk perkembangan ur kids yg comel2 tu...
geram tgk tgn uzair....mcm nk gigit2 jek..